I think I'm polyamorous? I'm just so confused. About a year ago, I had two crushes on these two guys. I jokingly was like "ha what if I dated both" and the more I thought about it, the more I liked the idea. I would dream about being in a triad with them, and the thought made me really happy. I also did the same when I got a crush on these two girls. And I did research, and now I'm even more confused bc unicorn hunters are a thing and now I'm scared that I am one??? What the heck??
Let me assure you that “unicorn hunting” is a behavior, not something someone just is, inherently, against their will. If you’re not in a couple pursuing a single bi woman to serve your sexual interests without considering much about hers, you’re not a unicorn hunter. Simply wanting to be in a polyamorous triad is not immoral or unethical in any way. Desire is not inherently predatory. It’s okay. You’re okay.
There are lots of people out there who are polyamorous and interested in triad-style dating! As long as you’re not trampling boundaries or making unreasonable demands in an attempt to date them, you’re all good. Keep reading about polyamory - you can start with my FAQ - and be gentle with yourself.