What is solo polyamory? I can’t find a solid definition and from what little bits and pieces I manage to find it sounds like the perfect thing for me.

Goodness, I’m not super knowledgeable on this myself. This looks like a good overview of it. Here’s another good site. It looks like the general concept is that the primary relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself, and you take new partners entirely on your own terms, without necessarily thinking that dating someone for a while, or liking them a whole lot, will make that relationship something you have to get really committed to in ways you don’t want to.

But also, it doesn’t really matter what other people say, or whether you can find a pre-fabricated definition. Only you can figure out what the perfect thing for you is. Do relationships your way, find what’s most healthy and fulfilling for you, and if you’re the only human in the world doing it that way, awesome! Then write it down so the next person who comes along doesn’t have to re-blaze the trail. No blogger, no definition, no advice column on tumblr, can substitute for your own introspection and experimentation.