How do you know if you’re poly or just a swinger?

How do you know whether you want to quit your job to become a full time childcare worker, or you just like babysitting your neighbors’ kids sometimes?

How do you know whether you want to move to Hawaii and become a pro surfer, or you just like taking the occasional beachside vacation?

It all comes down to: is this something that you enjoy primarily as an occasional sexual activity, or is it something you want to incorporate into all your relationships and your entire life?

Read about it, think about it, discuss it with your partner. Ultimately, there is no magical “sorting hat” that can tell you whether you’re poly or not. You know yourself best!

P.S. The word “just” there is unnecessary. No way of being in relationships or expressing your sexuality (as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else) is better or worse than anyone else. Being a swinger isn’t a lesser version of polyamory; it’s just another way to be a sexual being!